How Not To React To A Child Using Drugs
I came across a great article today that comes from a source called “The Educator’s Guide to Substance Abuse.” There is a ton of good information. But, one thing that stood out more than others was the comprehensive list of how NOT to react to your child if you find out they have been using drugs.
Here’s what they had to say:
How not to react to the child
As has been stated in the previous month’s article, the attitude with which the adult confronts the child, plays a vital role in the type of reaction that one can expect from the child. In the same way, there are a number of ways in which the adult must not react when confronting the issue and the child:
- Do not panic;
- do not make threats if you have no intention of carrying them out;
- do not nag or offer bribes;
- do not make accusations without justification;
- do not become hysterical or antagonistic. It is not easy to remain calm under such circumstances, but becoming neurotic may result in a further loss of control and deterioration in the situation;
- do not discuss the issue with the child while you are very angry and in danger of losing your temper. Wait until you have calmed down and can discuss it rationally;
- do not ignore the child’s negative behaviour;
- do not humiliate the child by calling him/her names;
- do not be afraid of the child;
- do not ask the youngster to promise not to take drugs;
- do not be overprotective - children must be allowed to experience the consequences of their actions;
- do not automatically cover up for the child - be firm in your decisions and beliefs; and
- do not back down or give in under pressure. Have the courage of your convictions.
So, what should you do? Come back tomorrow to find out or just follow the link above.
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May 14th, 2008 at 8:22 am
As a person who is in the life of 15 year old boy who has used drugs and probably still is from time to time what was said how not to react is all well and good until your are in that position,but it is my firm belief that it all starts at home with love and compassion and setting a good example and if those things are done to the best of the parent or (significant other) ability that is really the best medicine